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When your child knows a secure environment in the form of your totally committed love for them, they can easily accept guidance and direction.
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Talk with them from the earliest age and as they grow older, seek to convey understanding as to WHY some things are unacceptable. Seek to gain their agreement.
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Teach positive behaviour -
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Teach what is unacceptable behaviour -
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NB. Although we may have decided to be a parent who gives choices, this is NOT the choice of whether, say, to be violent to a younger brother or sister or not. These are things you wish to teach that are no-
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When your child is a baby, discipline is meaningless; they are simply learning.
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When your young child puts their fingers in the soil in a flower pot they are learning to feel.
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When they pull the cat's tail the cat may let them know that's unacceptable or you may have to stop them and explain that that might be hurting the cat.
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Try to avoid too many ‘No's’ but do use ‘No!’ to convey something that is unacceptable.
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Keeping away from things that will hurt them (heat, electricity, prickly plants) has to come by:
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I confess when I first heard the suggestion of holding family meetings, I thought it was just a smart idea some parental trainer had come up with, the latest fad!
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I've come to recognise the real value of ‘family meetings' and would thoroughly recommend them.
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They can be weekly or fortnightly or monthly, at a particular set time and all the family can participate
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As the children grow older they can be allowed to chair the meeting
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The purpose of the meeting is to talk about family matters -
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It is simply a forum for communication for everyone in the family.
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We noted above two extreme parenting styles -
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This style places limited options before your child but lets them choose from those options.
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Making choices is a natural part of life and we need to teach our child to do this from early on.
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Oddly enough, when we give our child two choices, they rarely ask for a third but consider the two given.
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